Overcome Sexual Performance Anxiety For Men

Nearly all men feel a little anxious about sex from time to time. Sex can be a very important part of a relationship, and relationships are a vital part of life, so it's understandable that people sometimes put pressure on themselves around sex.

Many men also have unrealistic expectations of themselves and what it means to "be a man." When sex is portrayed in films and TV shows, the implicit message often suggests that to be a "real man," you need to be some sort of constantly energized superstud-ready for action regardless of the state of the relationship or the experience and desires of your partner.

But that isn't a description of a man; it's a description of a sex robot. Real human beings-both men and women-have doubts, insecurities, and emotional needs. Sex works best when both partners feel comfortable, relaxed, and at ease with each other.

One helpful way to overcome anxiety around sex is to talk things through with your partner. This can help both of you give each other permission to go slowly, removing any sense of pressure to perform.

However, sexual performance anxiety can also become a conditioned, automatic pattern. You may have unconsciously associated any form of sexual intimacy with feelings of tension, discomfort, and pressure.

Let's take a moment to talk about fear and anxiety. Fear itself has a vital protective function for human beings in life-threatening situations. In such moments, your body immediately goes into "fight or flight" mode, giving you the energy to rapidly take action to protect yourself or escape to safety.

During a truly dangerous situation-like being confronted by a lion in the wild-your sexual responsiveness is supposed to switch off. In fact, during times of high fear, many functions not essential for dealing with the immediate threat are deactivated. For example, people often experience dry mouths when afraid because their body prioritizes survival over digestion, which isn't immediately necessary in a fight-or-flight scenario.

While fear relates to an immediate threat in your environment, anxiety is about expectations-your anticipation that something fearful might happen in the future. Anxiety is processed through the imagination, whereas fear is a direct response to a present, tangible situation.

The more you repeatedly imagine something as scary, the more likely you are to experience actual fear in that situation. If you've been putting excessive pressure on yourself to perform during sex and have anxiously imagined sexual experiences going badly, you may have developed an unconscious association between sexual intimacy and the fear response.

To move forward, it's important to recondition your instinctive responses. You need to rewire your brain to naturally associate sex with flowing enjoyment and pleasure rather than fear and pressure.

The deeply relaxing hypnotic part of this session is designed to help you do exactly that.