Stop Crying in Arguments

Do you often find yourself crying in arguments?

Does it feel like you just can't stop your emotions overwhelming you?

It's quite distressing to find yourself crying when you are in the middle of a heated discussion with someone, and you particularly want to make clear strong points and express yourself effectively.

Tears can make you seem weak, or foolish, and less credible generally. Who's going to take what you say seriously if you're weeping?

Crying is a natural response to stress

Many people imagine that someone who bursts into tears during an argument or quarrel is trying to manipulate the situation by bringing emotion into it.

But the person who finds tears welling up during some heated discussion is usually not in control of those tears. Just as they can't control blushing, or stop themselves breaking out in a sweat if they feel nervous.

The body has a number of such 'automatic' responses that switch on without you 'deciding' that you want to respond like this. These instinctive behaviors have evolved over millions of years, to protect us. But the trigger mechanisms that set them off are very simplistic. Basically, our brains make associations between things that are seem similar.

For example, a snake is a potentially dangerous creature, and you can see why it might be useful if, whenever you see a snake, you get a rush of adrenaline that powers your leg muscles to run like crazy. And you can see why it might still be useful if you see a bendy stick and get the same reaction. Because it might have been a snake, and better safe than sorry.

In the case of crying, in a truly dangerous standoff with another human, this would have triggered an empathy response, which could have saved your life.

What's happening now is the more primitive part of your brain is misunderstanding the situation - it's treating it as if your life is in danger, when it's clearly not.

Automatic responses like tears are not always helpful

These simple associations made by the emotional brain can sometimes be really unhelpful. It's not useful at all to be in a business meeting where you are perfectly safe and suddenly find your body reacting like your life is in danger. It's not useful to be trying to calmly argue an important point with someone, and suddenly find tears running down your cheeks.

But if these reactions are not under your control, what can you do about it?

The good news is that although you can't control automatic reactions directly, you can unlink unhelpful associations. And that means that an unwanted reaction won't get triggered, and so won't happen.

So how do you do that?

Hypnosis is a great way to get rid of unhelpful associations

Stop Crying in Arguments is an audio hypnosis session developed by psychologists that will quickly help you break the link between arguing and crying.

As you listen and relax repeatedly to your hypnotherapy session, you'll notice that you:

• Relax more quickly and more deeply each time you listen
• Find yourself feeling much calmer and more 'laid back' in general
• Begin to notice a change in how you feel about previous times when you were overwhelmed by emotion
• Are more and more able to direct the flow of your emotions
• Handle difficult situations and arguments much more calmly and cool headedly
• Develop a growing sense of confidence and optimism about how things will go in future.

Download Stop Crying in Arguments and enjoy being in control of yourself again. You can listen on your computer or device or via our free app which you can access when you have completed your purchase.