Make more friends and increase your social circle for fun and felicity!
Did you know that regularly meeting and talking with people you know improves your brain power?
(1) Of course, it's unlikely that you'd be looking for a wider social circle and more friends just
so you can improve your chances at the quiz night, but it's nice to know that this is a recognised
positive effect of good social interaction! And not the only one.
Why we need a circle of friends
Most people looking for friendship have a vague but perhaps inarticulate sense of how having friends
benefits them. They will say that they like to have congenial company, or that they don't want to be
lonely. But they perhaps don't fully understand why loneliness, apart from being no fun to experience,
is actually bad for you.
The fact is, we humans are social creatures. We like nothing so much as getting together with each
other (preferably with likeminded sorts). There are some individuals who appear to prefer to live apart
from other human society, on their own, but they are very much the exception. In fact, it has been shown
that prolonged social isolation can cause our mental and physical faculties to deteriorate. We become 'odd'.
Friendships keep you sane - and bring you the unexpected
So another benefit of having good connections with other people is that it actually helps us to stay sane and
balanced. It improves our life chances too. The more people you know, the more likely it is that someone you
know, or someone they know in turn, will know someone or something that will be of benefit to you.
The wider your social circle, the better
Friendships are not unadulterated bliss, of course. There's ups and downs in any relationship, and some friendships
may even turn to enmity, or indifference. All the more reason to seek a wide circle of friends, so that if some
friendships fail or end, there are always others to turn to.
Can anyone make friends? Yes.
Some people seem to have an extraordinary 'knack' of making friends, easily connecting with others wherever they go.
This can feel daunting to those of us who have a different make-up, or who are not as experienced in making friends,
but it really is true that anyone can expand their social circle and make more friends.
Making more friends - step one - know what's out there
Making more friends requires a two-pronged approach. Firstly, you need a practical means of connecting with new people
with whom you might have something in common. Local clubs, church groups, special interest groups, causes and charities
are usually excellent routes to investigate. Thanks to the internet, it's now much easier to track down something that
appeals to you - and even make those first vital contacts.
Making more friends - step two - use what's in there
And secondly, you need to overcome any inner inhibition, shyness, or lack of motivation and boost your determination to
get out there and find those friends. Although both aspects can present challenges, it is this matter of inner motivation
and determination which people often struggle with the most. Even if you have all the practical means to hand, just how
do you persuade yourself to get out there and do it?
Increase your social circle is an audio hypnosis session which directly addresses this question. Motivation to socialise
is more than mere will-power, and Increase your social circle will allow you to access the inner unconscious resources
that you need to activate to make more friends.
You will find that you can completely calm your inner qualms and uncertainties, which may have been making you feel quite
anxious about the business of making friends. You will then learn to use this deep inner calm to focus your mind and
inwardly prepare to welcome more people successfully into your life. Regular practice of this process will allow you to
become fully at ease with the process of establishing a wider circle.
Download Increase your social circle and get ready to greet your new friends.
(1) Ybarra, O., Burnstein, E., Winkielman, P., Keller, M.C., Manis, M., Chan, E., & Rodriguez, J. (2008) Mental exercising
through simple socializing: Social interaction promotes general cognitive functioning. Personality and Social Psychology
Bulletin, 34, 248-259.
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