Be Less Abrasive When You Speak Your Mind

Are you a very direct sort of person who likes to 'tell it like it is'?

Do friends, family or colleagues accuse you of being harsh or insensitive?

People with strong views and opinions, who quickly make up their minds about things, often have a very direct communication style. There are clear advantages to this for the people around them.

It means you always know what they think, because they come right out and say it. And then you can go from there in terms of what action you take. There is no 'beating about the bush'.

You'd think it would be a good thing if we were all completely straightforward and blunt in our communication.

Why you might want to be a less abrasive communicator

However, the fact that you're reading this indicates you may have encountered some problems with adopting an unvarnished style.

Maybe some people who matter are avoiding you. Maybe you've been criticized for not taking sufficient account of other people's feelings. Maybe things backfired completely and you got the opposite result from what you wanted - or expected.

It might seem to you that other people have a trying tendency to take things very personally, rather than treating what you say as neutral and factual communications. Or you may consider that there are a lot of thin-skinned people out there who really need to toughen up.

And you may be right. However, it's clear that you can't make everyone around you somehow be different, or behave differently.

So if you want to have an easier time with other people, and not have what you say put your work or personal relationships unintentionally in jeopardy, you only have room for maneuver around what you yourself do. Because you can change that. And you don't have to be a pussy cat or a doormat to do it. Or never say what you really think.

How to improve your communication style

In a way, it's like music. You don't have to be a musician to appreciate that music that's all at the same pitch, tempo and volume on a very small range of notes is deadening. It can't stir, or soothe, or inspire you. It might drive you crazy, if nothing better is quickly forthcoming!

Talking to people, even when it's a matter of giving them 'a piece of your mind' over some problem or difficulty they may have caused, calls for skillful handling if you want to get all of the results that you're after.

You need to know what to say, when to say it and how to say it in order to get the best outcome. This may mean exercising restraint and discernment - which is quite hard to do if you are feeling angry or impatient yourself.

The trick is to find a way of creating a space for yourself to take a 'bird's eye view' of the situation before you open your mouth. You may have tried to do this by telling yourself 'not to rush things', but it's not easy in the pressure of the moment, when you may have to react quickly to something, or you feel it's very important to get particular information across very clearly.

The good news is that there is a very effective - and easy - way to develop the finesse you need in communication.

How hypnosis can quickly help you become a less abrasive communicator

Be Less Abrasive is an audio hypnosis session developed by psychologists with wide experience in the psychology of human communications. It uses powerful hypnotic processes to train your unconscious mind to interrupt the automatic 'jump' from thought to tongue so that you can direct the flow.

As you listen and relax repeatedly to your download, you'll notice that you increasingly

• take a wider view
• 'see ahead' to the likely impact of your words
• sense where the other person is coming from
• stay focused on the real outcome that you want
• temper what you say to the needs of the situation
• find it easier to get along with others

And you can still be quite blunt whenever you deem it appropriate.

Download Be Less Abrasive and make your relationships easier. You can listen on your computer or device or via our free app which you can access when you have completed your purchase.