Stop being over-protective and let your children really grow

You love your children and you want the best for them. As a parent, you think ahead, and try to foresee what problems and challenges might arise. You try to protect your children from hurt at home and abroad. You warn them of dangers and sometimes forcibly remove them from harm's way. This is what being a parent is all about, is it not? But can a parent be over-protective? Can an over-protective parent do more harm than good?

Is it possible to be too protective of your children?

Such questions raise uncomfortable feelings in the breast of any decent parent. It feels impossible to answer! If you answer 'yes', a whole train of spectres rises up in your mind, threatening the child whose well-being is your heart's concern. Who will save them from bullies, muggers, thieves, rapists, the threat of contagion, terrorists, if you don't?

If you answer 'no', a different ghost haunts your mind. The ghost of your child's future. A timid, anxious creature, uncertain of their place in the world, not getting far in life, always needing help with everything, a bit sickly, perhaps even dependent on you a lot longer than you'd like… Not what you really want for them at all.

What is a parent to do?

Getting to 'good enough' parenting through balance

Well, for a start, it helps to realize that this is a very black-and-white, all-or-nothing view. And that means it is not showing you the whole truth. When you step back, and calm down, you can begin to see the bigger picture. That powerful protective instinct is only part of your role as a parent. It is, indeed, very important. But it need not be the only consideration in every decision you make about parenting.

Good parenting (what the psychologists call 'good enough parenting') is really about balance. That means that sometimes it is appropriate to be protective in every way. And sometimes it's appropriate to hold back, and let your children learn their own lessons. Which means making mistakes, taking risks, getting it wrong, getting hurt sometimes. It's this balance which produces strong, mature individuals, able to make their own way.

Changing instinctive patterns through hypnosis

But even when you acknowledge this intellectually, and try to be more balanced in your parenting, you've probably noticed how hard it feels to resist that instinctive urge to step right in there and protect. It's almost as if you can't help yourself. So it's good to know that instinctive templates, even such deeply embedded ones as protective parenting, can be updated.

Over-protective parent is an audio hypnosis session which makes full use of the latest insights into brain functions and behavior patterns. In hypnosis, you activate the part of your brain that handles dreaming. But as you are not asleep, this 'dream state' can be actively used to update instinctive patterns. As you relax to Over-protective parent, you will find these changes happening almost effortlessly.

Over-protective parent is underpinned by the best psychological understanding of healthy parenting, so you can be sure that the changes you make will be beneficial to you and your children equally.

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