Learn to be a calm, assertive parent
Hell hath no fury like a spoiled child.
"I want to tell him off but even when he's being horrid I just feel sorry for him and
just give in!"
Or
" She is so spiteful, rude and demanding sometimes and pushes me
around but I feel guilty for the fact that I spilt from her father and because of that
guilt I'm weaker than I should be with her…!"
Or
"My parents were so tough and mean to
me I don't want to be anything like this so I tend to let my child do as they please…"
Do any of these sound familiar? There are all common reasons we hear for not supplying tough love to children who may be
crying out for direction and constructive discipline.
It may feel easier, but really it's much harder
It can feel easier to let your kids have their way when they kick up a storm…but in
the long term it's much much harder.
The fact is that children need clear boundaries, they need to know where they are,
what they can and cannot do. When you are tough but fair, loving and strong then your
child feels more secure, learns to respect themselves and others and has a chance to
develop self discipline.
So what has stopped you parenting assertively?
Maybe you feel guilty and seek to assuage this guilt by giving in too often to your
child. If you are a single parent or feel you can't always provide enough time or
money for your child this guilt may have meant that, as attempted appeasement, you
give in too easily.
Maybe you want a quiet life and your child has learnt that if they keep on enough or
become aggressive and rude then you'll crumple and reward them for their bad behavior.
Calm assertiveness feels much better
In the moment of disciplining your child you need to dissociate from your own
emotional responses or conditionings. Your feelings of guilt, anger, or not wanting
to 'repeat the mistakes of your parents' need to be put aside as irrelevant when you
are setting clear limits.
When you are calm and clear headed then you can, when needed, provide good strong
assertive parenting. Hypnosis can help you change your automatic limiting emotional
responses so you can know when to use toughness to say 'no' to your child and mean it.
This session is going to help you remain calm, detached and fair when setting firm
limits because sometimes the fairest you can be to your child is to be firm and strong
with them.
Download Assertive Parenting now and give your child the chance they need.
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